Tag: Tarbiyah

Praise be to Allah.This question was put to Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy
on him) and he said:
I think that this is a kind of spying
and it is not permissible for anyone to spy on anyone else, because we have no
right the judge anybody except by what is apparent. If we start spying on
people we will have a lot of headaches because of this spying and we will be
upset by what we hear and see.
Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning) “And spy not” [al-Hujuraat
49:12]
after saying (interpretation of the meaning), “O you who believe! Avoid much
suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not” [al-Hujuraat 49:12].
But if the head of the household sees indications
of these evil telephone calls, then there is nothing wrong with setting up a
recording device without their knowledge, but he realizes that there is
something going on, he should not keep quiet and keep listening, rather he
should rebuke them straightaway, because if he communities to listen,because he may hear
something that will upset him even more. For example, if he comes across a bad
telephone conversation, he must rebuke the one who is doing it straight away,
and not delay it until the next day; he must put a stop to it from the
beginning.
But with regard to mere suspicion
based on waswaas (insinuating whispers of the Shaytaan), it is not permitted (for him to set up this
device), but if he knows that the matter is serious and that it is actually
happening, then it is OK to set up a recorder so as to find out what is going on.

Praise be to Allah.
Raising children to follow Islam from an early age, teaching
them to memorize the Book of Allaah and educating them is the Sunnah of the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and is regarded as
a very important matter, especially in this day and age. But it is something
that many people neglect with regard to their children and those under their
care, and they get distracted by things that will be of no benefit to them
in the Hereafter and may indeed harm them, and make them emotionally
attached to those who do not even deserve to be mentioned, let alone taken
as role models, such as actors, sports players and singers. 

We appreciate our sister’s question and we ask Allaah to make
her steadfast and to help her in this matter and others, and to decree
reward for her on the Day of Judgement. What can be greater than meeting
one’s Lord with a record of good deeds which includes guiding others to do
good or sharing in establishing good? 

With regard to this little sister and teaching her to
memorize Qur’aan, we advise our sister to do the following: 

1-Start with that which is
easiest to read and memorize, namely Soorat al-Faatihah, then with the last
juz’, working from the end. Starting with something easy helps one to move
on to more difficult material. Moreover she will have a real need for that
when she starts to learn the prayer.

2-The amount to be memorized
every day should be small, so that she will be able to memorize it and it
will be easy for her to memorize what comes next. This amount will vary from
one child to the next, depending on his or her intelligence and memory.

3-Review often so that what has
been memorized will stick. Do not let any day go by without memorizing
something new and reviewing the old.

4-Encourage her by giving her a
prize every time she finishes a juz’ – for example – and memorizes it well.

5-Start to move from prompting
her and having her repeat, which is usually the first stage in memorization,
to teaching her how to read, so that it will be easy for her to read the
Qur’aan by herself at times when her sister or teacher are not present.

6-Let her get used to reciting
what she has memorized in her prayer, whether that is obligatory or naafil
prayer, once she reaches an age where prayer is required of her and she can
understand it.

7-Let her get used to listening
to what she has memorized on tapes or on the computer, so that she can hear
both a good pronunciation and good recitation, and she can review and
consolidate what she has learned.

8-Choose a good time for
memorization when there are few distractions – such as after Fajr or between
Maghrib and ‘Isha’. Avoid times when she is hungry, tired or sleepy.

9-Praise her for what she has
memorized in front of neighbours and relatives, so as to encourage her and
encourage them to do the same thing; at the same time, pray for refuge for
her with Allaah for fear of the evil eye and envy (hasad).

10-It is essential for
her to have one style of Mus-haf with no changes, so that the layout of the
verses will be imprinted in her memory.

11-You should encourage
her to write out what she has memorized so that she may combine learning how
to write with reinforcing what she has memorized.

And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Praise be to Allah.Perhaps one of the best
ways to deal with youth of this age is to teach them about heroes and
conquerors, tell them about their stories and their attitudes, to create
ambition in them. Also tell them about the reality that Muslims face, how
their enemies plot against them and try to distract their youth with idle
entertainment. Do not be too hard on them with regard to some things that
are natural to them at this age, such as being concerned with how they look,
but teach them the limits set by sharee’ah with regard to that.

 I advise you to read the book al-Muraahiqoon by Dr.
‘Abd al-‘Azeez al-Nughaymishi.

 May Allaah give you strength.