Category: Muamalah

Praise be to Allah.It seems that the series of
sufferings that you are facing with this woman will continue, and the list
of her bad deeds will grow longer. Her bad treatment of your little girl
will never know any limit; if your daughter was an animal it would not be
permissible for her to do what she has done to her. 
We are certain that if your
son from her were to suffer as your daughter is suffering because of not
being able to go to the bathroom by himself, you would not see him being
treated as badly as she is treating your daughter. This — unfortunately —
happens a lot with the wives of fathers, and many, both male and female,
suffer from this. 
What we advise you to do
is: 
You must deal with the
matter seriously and quickly, try to instil a sense of love, mercy and
compassion in her heart, in the hope that she will stop what she is doing.
If you succeed in doing that, then you will have achieved what you want and
she will still be your wife. 
If you do not succeed, then
you have no choice but divorce. We do not advise you to be hardhearted and
harsh, because that will only make her more cruel towards your daughter, and
she will find more ways to harm her, whilst concealing the evidence of her
misdeeds. Hence if she does not respond to you and change her behaviour, and
mend her ways in response to kindness and persuasion, there is no solution
that will put an end to your suffering except divorce, sooner rather than
later. You are aware of your daughter’s suffering, and you hear her cries,
and you see the injury to her face and the burns on her leg and stomach, yet
despite that you’re still confused because you have a son from her. So how
would it be if there were more children then?! But we will not hide anything
from you, and we will tell you frankly that with a woman such as this, whom
you have divorced twice yet it has not stopped her wrongdoing and
aggression, there is no hope for much good in her, and it cannot be expected
that she will be kind to your daughter, because mercy cannot be instilled by
means of threats or warnings in the heart of one whom Allaah has deprived of
it. 
If you think of divorcing
her for a third time, or she sees signs of that in you, do not leave your
daughter with her, rather leave her with one of your relatives or with
trustworthy women among your neighbours or friends, because she might try to
take revenge on her because of your divorcing her. We do not know how you
are going to deal with the matter, because women vary, hence we are afraid
that she may do something to your daughter. With such women there is no
regret in separating from them. 
We ask Allaah to relieve your distress and worry, and to reward you for your calamity, and replace it with good from Him. 
And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.1.
We were very happy to receive your letter with the good news that you have entered Islam. We believe that your joy in belonging to Islam is joy that will last a lifetime. The greatest blessing that Allah can bestow upon any of His slaves is to guide him and open his heart to Islam. We ask Allah to complete and perfect the blessing of faith and well-being for you and to make you steadfast in following it until the Day when you meet the Lord of the Worlds. 
2.
We are very happy to learn that you love Islam and want to adhere to its laws. We think that this is a sign of blessing that Allah has bestowed upon you. We also feel that you have tasted the sweetness of faith at a time when many of those who belong to Islam in name only are deprived of it.
3.
We are very sad to learn about your parents and their disbelief in Allah, may He be exalted, and we are even more sad to learn of their reviling Allah, may He be exalted and His Messenger Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), even though Allah is their Lord, Creator and Provider and the Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) is the Seal of the Prophets, concerning whom Allah took a covenant from every Prophet – and, by implication, their followers — that they would follow His Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), if Muhammad was sent when they were still alive. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And (remember) when Allaah took the Covenant of the Prophets, saying: ‘Take whatever I gave you from the Book and Hikmah (understanding of the Laws of Allaah), and afterwards there will come to you a Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) confirming what is with you; you must, then, believe in him and help him.’ Allaah said: ‘Do you agree (to it) and will you take up My Covenant (which I conclude with you)?’ They said: ‘We agree.’ He said: ‘Then bear witness; and I am with you among the witnesses (for this).’
82. Then whoever turns away after this, they are the Faasiqoon (rebellious: those who turn away from Allaah’s obedience).
83. Do they seek other than the religion of Allaah (the true Islamic Monotheism __ worshipping none but Allaah Alone), while to Him submitted all creatures in the heavens and the earth, willingly or unwillingly. And to Him shall they all be returned.”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:81-83]. 
And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) told us that whoever hears of him but does not follow him or believe in him, Allah will forbid Paradise to him: 
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no one among this nation, Jew or Christian, hears of me then dies not believing in that with which I was sent, but he will be one of the people of the Fire.”
Narrated by Muslim, 153. 
Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 
The words of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), “no one among this nation… hears of me… ” mean: anyone who is alive during my lifetime and afterwards, until the Day of Resurrection; all of them are obliged to obey me. He only mentioned the Jews and Christians by way of example, but it includes all others, because the Jews and Christians have a Scripture; if this is the case with regard to them, even though they have a Scripture, then it applies even more so to those who did not have a Scripture. And Allah knows best. Sharh Muslim. 
4.
We understand very well the difficulty of the circumstances in which you find yourself, and we ask Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, to make things easy for you and to grant you relief and a way out from the situation that you are in. But even though your situation is difficult, it is not confusing or unclear. First and foremost, you are enjoined to obey Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, in that which He has enjoined upon you. So do what He has enjoined upon you of acts of worship and avoid that which He has forbidden to you of haraam things. This alone is the way of guidance. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: Obey Allaah and obey the Messenger, but if you turn away, he (Messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) is only responsible for the duty placed on him (i.e. to convey Allaah’s Message) and you for that placed on you. If you obey him, you shall be on the right guidance. The Messenger’s duty is only to convey (the message) in a clear way (i.e. to preach in a plain way)”
[al-Noor 24:54]. 
Even though you are enjoined to treat your parents kindly and keep good company with them, even if they are disbelievers, that does not mean that you should disobey your Lord in order to please them or that you should put obedience towards them before obedience towards Allah, may He be exalted; rather obedience towards Allah and obedience towards His Messenger takes precedence over all things and over obedience towards anyone. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents; but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:8]. 
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 
Here Allah, may He be exalted, is commanding His slaves to treat parents kindly, after urging them to adhere to Tawheed (belief in His Oneness), because the parents are the reason why a person exists and he is obliged to treat them with the utmost kindness. But despite this injunction to be kind, compassionate and good towards them in return for their previous kind treatment, He says “but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not”, meaning: If they try to make you follow them in their religion, if they are mushrikeen, then beware of doing so and do not obey them in that, for you will all return to Me on the Day of Resurrection, and I will reward you for your kindness towards them and your patience in adhering to your religion, and I will gather you with the righteous, not with the group of your parents, even if you were the closest of people to them in this world, because on the Day of Resurrection, each person will be gathered with those whom he loves, namely spiritual love. Hence Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And for those who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah and the other articles of Faith) and do righteous good deeds, surely, We shall make them enter with (in the entrance of) the righteous (in Paradise)” [al-‘Ankaboot 29:9]. End quote.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 6/264-265 
The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience if it involves disobedience towards Allaah; obedience is only in that which is right and proper.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (7257) and Muslim (1840). 
And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience to Allah, may He glorified and exalted.”
Narrated by Ahmad (1089); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. 
Based on that: if anything your parents tell you to do contradicts the command of Allah and His Messenger, then do not obey your parents; rather you should give precedence to obeying Allah and His Messenger. There is nothing wrong with that. 
But this does not mean that all the rights of your parents over you are waived; rather Allah, may He be exalted, enjoins treating them kindly and in a good manner despite that. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do”
[Luqmaan 31:15]. 
We believe that what we have explained to you of the Islamic view of this problem will be sufficient to offer you a solution, at least from a theoretical point of view. 
5.
But there remains the practical aspect, which is the most difficult aspect of your problem, because of your particular circumstances and the fact that you are very young, which means that you cannot be independent and do what you think is correct. You should remember that Allah will not give you a burden that is greater than what you are able to bear. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allaah burdens not a person beyond his scope”
[al-Baqarah 2:286]
“Allaah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him”
[al-Talaaq 65:7]
“So keep your duty to Allaah and fear Him as much as you can”
[al-Taghaabun 64:16]
And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If I command you to do something, then do as much of it as you can.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6858) and Muslim (1337). 
And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Allaah has forgiven my ummah for mistakes and forgetfulness, and what they are forced to do.”
Narrated by Ibn Maajah (2045) and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh ibn Maajah. 
6.
As that is the case, you have to strive to do everything you can of the Islamic obligations and avoid everything that you can of haraam things. You have to hasten to do that as much as you are able. If they tell you not to pray in front of them, then pray behind their backs. If they tell you not to wear complete hijab or you are not able to get any Islamic clothing, then make your clothing as close as possible to Islamic clothing, even if you learn how to make that for yourself or something close to it. If they ask you to go to church, then make any excuse not to go and avoid it as much as possible; make up excuses which will get you out of that. Not all Christians in the West, or in the East, go to church; rather it is very few among them who do that. 
Similarly, try to avoid parties in which there is dancing and singing, and to avoid anything they tell you to do which involves sin, by means of any excuse that you can make up. If they force you to attend parties, then avoid dancing, especially if that is with men or in the presence of men. Pretend to be sick or anything else that will get you out of it. 
Whatever they force you to do of haraam things, then do the minimum of it. Make your clothes as covering as possible and on their special occasions do not stay at their parties until the end. And do the same with regard to all haraam things. 
In general, strive to do whatever you can of Islamic rituals and to avoid whatever you can avoid. If they force you to do anything of that nature, then do it outwardly only, and let your heart always be connected to Allah and remembrance of Him, until Allah grants you a way out of your situation. Be optimistic that a way out will come soon and that after hardship comes ease:
“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things”
[al-Talaaq 65:2-3]
7.
We advise you to keep in touch with Muslim sisters, whether in real life or through the Internet. We also advise you to contact Islamic websites that will help you with your religious commitment and from which you can learn to strengthen your faith and increase your knowledge. If you can get in touch with an Islamic centre that is close to you, that will be very good in sha Allah. Perhaps, because of their experience of the local region and familiarity with a lot of these problems, they will be able to offer more practical help and solutions than we are able to. 
8.
Remember that some of those who came to Islam before you went through difficult circumstances, as they were punished and beaten by their parents and deprived of their human rights, but they bore that hardship with patience for the sake of Allah until the help of Allah came to them and Allah saved them from that situation and they prevailed by the blessing and grace of Allah and became victorious. So do not despair because of what has happened to you and do not be upset by your situation, for Allah is taking care of you and He hears and sees all. Be steadfast in adhering to guidance and truth as those who came before you were patient. Remember that this is a test from Allah to show the sincerity of your faith and He will give you the best reward for it in this world and in the Hereafter. Perhaps Allah will send His help and support to you sooner rather than later. 
9.
Your parents need you to save them from the fire of Hell and the wrath of Allah, so we advise you to show them the best image of a true Muslim woman, by treating them kindly, honouring them, speaking gently to them, taking care of their food and drink and serving them. Perhaps they will think again and reduce the pressure on you or stop it altogether. We also advise you to pray sincerely and ask Allah to guide them to Islam and bless them with faith, for that is not difficult for Allah. Listen to this story: 
Muslim (2491) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I used to call my mother to Islam when she was a mushrik. I called her one day and she said to me something about the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) that I disliked. I came to the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) weeping, and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I have been calling my mother to Islam but she refuses. I called her today and she said to me something about you that I disliked. Pray to Allaah to guide the mother of Abu Hurayrah. The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “O Allaah, guide the mother of Abu Hurayrah.” I went out, feeling optimistic because of the du’aa’ of the Prophet of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). When I came near the door, I found it closed. My mother heard my footsteps and said: Stay where you are, O Abu Hurayrah! I heard the sound of water. She did ghusl then she put on her chemise and quickly put on her head cover, then she opened the door and said: O Abu Hurayrah, I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. He said: I went back to the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and I came to him, weeping with joy. I said: O Messenger of Allaah, be of good cheer, for Allaah has answered your prayer and has guided the mother of Abu Hurayrah. He praised and glorified Allaah and said good things. 
10.
We do not advise you to run away or leave home, because the bad consequences of that greater than the bad consequences of staying at home, and because anyone who offers you refuge may expose himself to the most severe punishment under the unjust law of your country. We can offer you no advice except to be patient and stop thinking about running away from home. 
We ask Allah, the Most High and All Powerful, to make you steadfast in following guidance and to grant you well being both spiritual and physical; we ask Him to guide your parents to Islam and to give you the joy of seeing them as righteous believers in this world and in the Hereafter. 
We hope that you will keep in touch with us, for we all your family and your brothers. Perhaps, as the result of the prayers of your brothers and sisters who read your story, Allah will benefit you thereby and grant you a way out of hardship by His blessing. 
And Allah is the source of strength.

Praise be to Allah.
Proof that a person is in good mental health and treats
others well does not require the testimony of a doctor. What matters is what
people see of a man, not the papers he produces.  

Hence if the accusations of your wife’s family are based on
things that they have seen you do or words that they have heard you speak,
then they may have a reason. You have to sort yourself out and mend your
ways so that there will be nothing for others to judge you by.  

If what they said about you has no real basis, rather it is
false and sinful testimony, then we think that you should advise them and
explain to them that their false accusation against you is sinful, and tell
them how that has caused division between you and your wife. If they recant,
then all well and good, otherwise you should shun them, and not let them
visit you or let your wife visit them, lest they turn her against you. 

With regard to your intention of taking a second wife, what
we advise you is to wait and to examine the real motive for that, because
often in such cases the decision is based on the desire for revenge against
the first wife and her family because of the trouble they caused, and
usually when a man marries with this attitude it leads to trouble for the
second wife too, if the husband has not set things straight with his first
wife and her family. 

If you have not set things straight between you and your wife
and her family, we think that if you want to take a second wife, you should
let the first wife go and divorce her, or you can keep the first wife if you
intend to keep both wives if Allaah guides her (the first wife). We also
advise you to have a good intention and try to do the right thing, for
Allaah says concerning spouses between whom there are difficulties
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“if they both wish for peace, Allaah will cause their
reconciliation. Indeed Allaah is Ever All‑Knower, Well‑Acquainted with all
things”

[al-Nisa’ 4:35]
We advise you to fear
Allaah with regard to every step you take and not to let this problem cause
you to treat her unjustly or to keep reminding her of mistakes that she made
but that she has apologized for.

 We ask Allaah to set your affairs straight and to make it easy for both of you to do the right thing. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Praise be to Allah.
In the earliest days, the Muslims used to have slaves, female
and male, who used to serve them. Slavery was abolished [in Saudi Arabia] in
1386 AH, and there are no slaves any more. The people began to bring female
servants from some other countries such as the Philippines, Sri Lanka etc.
In this situation the people had no choice but to bring servants. It is
permissible for a woman to bring a servant, but she should make sure that
she is a Muslim and that she is trustworthy and there is no fear of her
causing harm, and that she adheres to the rulings of Islam, is modest and
observes hijaab; she should avoid meeting men, and if any man enters the
house she should wear hijaab as women do in front of non-mahram men. Bringing such a servant should be the matter of necessity, and when the wife is able to do without her, she should be sent back to her family. (If these conditions are met), then it is permissible to bring servants according to need.

Praise be to Allah.What happened, happened,
and now it is over according to what you say. Now you have no option but to
learn a lesson for the future, to choose suitable husbands for your
daughters and suitable wives for your sons. You have ahead of you the rest
of the days that Allaah has decreed for you, so do not be preoccupied with
grief, regret and sorrow, because that will not do you any good. Take care
of yourself and turn away from that which will harm you and make you waste
your life with no benefit. 
It is essential that you
conceal this from your children, because no interest will be served by their
knowing about it. 
Strive to teach your
children the ‘aqeedah (beliefs) of Ahl al-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa’ah, and give
them a sound upbringing. 
Seek reward for your
calamity with your Creator, and strive to do righteous deeds that will
benefit you and your children. Do not pay any attention to the past, because
it is behind you. Nothing can help except forgetting about him and doing
that which will help and benefit you in spiritual and worldly terms. 
We ask Allaah to compensate
you with good and to relieve you of worry and grief. 
And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.
Firstly, we praise Allah for having guided you to the
truth, and we ask Him to make you steadfast and help you to attain all
that is good. Remember that you have been greatly blessed, and if you
devote your entire life and wealth for that purpose, that will be little
in return for that blessing. Do you know how many millions of people of
your father’s background worship rocks and human beings? Do you know that
all these people believe that the Qur’aan is distorted and they regard the
Sahaabah as kaafirs, apart from a few of them? Do you know that these
people have revived the shirk of Jaahiliyyah and added more forms of shirk
than were known in the past? 

We do not call people to anything except worship of Allah,
may He be exalted, and we also call people to venerate and respect the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and not to impugn his
honour or slander his Companions. As we love all of the Sahaabah and pray
that Allah be pleased with them, and we seek to draw closer to Allah by
loving them, we also love and respect the people of the Prophet’s household
(Ahl al-Bayt), and we seek to draw closer to Allah by loving them. 

Secondly: 

With regard to your dealings with your father, what we advise
you is: 

1.Be kind in your dealings with
him as much as possible.

2.Strive to serve him as much as
you are able, and do not spare any effort in doing so. Do not withhold any
help or kind treatment from him.

3.Focus on your studies and do
not let your neglect of them be a cause of you losing your religious
commitment. What we understand from your message is that your father wants
to take steps to prevent you from accessing our site and other beneficial
Islamic sites because of your studies. So do not give him that excuse; study
and progress in your studies; close the door to your father’s shaytaan so
that he will not be able to make the issue of your studies a means of
preventing you from following true guidance.

4.Do not make an open show of
visiting useful Islamic websites in front of him, and do not make an open
show of your following the path of Ahl al-Sunnah in front of him. Even more
important is not arguing and debating with regard to good matters, because
doing that openly may motivate him to prevent you from following the path of
true guidance.

5.Pray for him and for all of
your family to be guided to the right path. Strive to make this du’aa’ when
you are prostrating and during the last third of the night.

6.Finally, we advise you to use
wisdom in dealing with your father. If he teaches you to pray in the Shi’i
manner and you cannot reject it, then accept it from him and pretend to
agree with him, but pray in the manner established in the sound Sunnah. With
regard to the way the prayer is done, the matter is broad in scope in sha
Allah, and you come under the heading of one who is forced to do something.
You are at an age when you are not old enough to separate from him, so be
patient until the time comes when you can leave, then if Allah guides your
father before that, you can stay with them, or you can leave and live
independently, so as to protect your religious commitment.

And Allah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.
A woman has to cover her entire body, including the face,
from men who are strangers to her (i.e., non-mahrams). She should observe
hijab even more strictly in front of her husband’s male relatives who are
not mahrams for her than in front of strangers. This is the opposite of what
most careless people do nowadays. The Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said, when one of his companions wanted an exception to
allow the husband’s relatives to enter upon his wife: “The in-law is death.”
So we must be more cautious with regard to the husband’s relatives –
including his brothers – because of the carelessness that exists with regard
to this matter.

 Your brother has done well by not allowing his wife to
appear in front of you, and she has done well by obeying the command of
Allaah and of her husband. This is not extremism at all; rather it is
obedience to the command of Allaah. There is no need for the husband’s
brothers to see his wife, let alone sit with her and talk to her. 

Those scholars who said it is permissible for a woman to sit
with her husband’s relatives only allowed it on condition that there is no
suspicion attached to that and that she does not sit alone with one of them,
or there is no listening to songs or watching haraam things on the part of
either of them. Unfortunately such things happen in most people’s
gatherings. If the gathering is free of the above-mentioned evils and haraam
things and the woman observes full hijab, then it is permissible for her to
sit with them and speak to them, so long as she is not soft in speech. But
it is still better and more on the safe side for her not to do that, and
this is what your brother has done, so that hearts may remain pure and free
of the traps by which the Shaytaan ensnares people. 

What your brother has done should not have any effect on your
relationship with him or on the relationship of your wives with his wife.
They are doing something good and acting in accordance with Islam. You
should try to get close to them and learn from them in the way they deal
with people. You should note that your brothers’ criticizing their brother
for concealing his wife from them and not letting her sit with them makes
one have suspicions about them. In sha Allaah they are not that type of
people, but the Shaytaan may make something appear attractive to a man so
that what is good becomes bad to him, and what is bad becomes good, so he
regards covering and modesty as extremism and laxity as trust and progress.
 

We ask Allaah to purify our hearts and bodies, and to bring
you together in a good way, and to reconcile between you, and to make you a
good example to other people. 

See also the answers to questions no.
21363 and
13261 

And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.Firstly: 
The depression that people feel may be a sickness that needs to be treated and needs referral to specialists; or it may be feelings of distress that may be relieved by doing a lot of acts of worship, remembering Allah, keeping company with good and righteous friends, and keeping busy with beneficial actions. For more information on that please see the answer to questions number 22704, 21515 and 100774. 
Whatever the case, Allah has not sent down any disease but He has sent down a cure for it, and there is a remedy for this depression no matter what type it is. The believer should adorn himself with patience and certainty of faith, and he should turn to Allah a great deal and ask of Him, because the keys to goodness are in His hand. How many believing men and women have patiently borne a sickness or calamity or imprisonment, without feeling the need to commit a haraam action. This is the action of people who are discontent with the divine decree and are not patient in accepting what Allah wills; they hasten to rid themselves of what has befallen them by any means, no matter what negative consequences it leads to in this world or the Hereafter.  
Secondly: 
It is not permissible for a woman to ask her husband for divorce except for a legitimate shar’i reason which prevents her from continuing with him, such as his bad treatment or her being put off by him to the extent that she cannot give him his rights. That is because of the reports narrated by Abu Dawood (2226), al-Tirmidhi (1187) and Ibn Maajah (2055) from Thawbaan (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 
And it was narrated from ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Those who ask for khula’ are hypocrite women.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer (17/339); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’. No/ 1934. 
If we assume that the wife in her state of anger, sickness or depression asked her husband for a divorce, when she calms down she will realize her mistake and ask Allah for forgiveness and apologize to her husband.  
If the depression and hardship stem from her relationship with her husband, because of his bad treatment or because she dislikes him, and this is proven by trustworthy people from her family, then they should try to bring about reconciliation and consult the husband with regard to that, so as to reach a solution which will bring the wife out of the state of depression in which she is living. 
Our advice to the questioner — who has mentioned that the reason for her depression is being far away from her family — is that she should be patient and try to get over this crisis. 
Depression — in most cases — happens to the person who has too much free time, who is not keeping himself busy with useful work, whether it has to do with matters of the Hereafter or with worldly matters. 
Keep yourself busy by doing useful things; join a circle for memorizing the Holy Qur’aan; get to know trustworthy sisters who are religiously committed and of good character, and work with them in doing good deeds. 
You can make an agreement with your husband that you can visit your family from time to time, and we also encourage your family to visit you as well. 
The husband has to put up with what he may encounter from his wife, and try to support her and help her to get over this crisis. It is essential for the husband, the wife and her family to cooperate so that things may go back to normal. 
As for divorce, stop thinking about it and overcome the depression that you are faced with. Seek the help of Allah and call upon Him a great deal. 
We ask Allah to set your affairs straight and to help you to do all that is good. 
And Allah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.If your talking to your
friend will not result in any negative consequences such as her brother
trying to talk to you or contact you and the like, then there is nothing
wrong with your talking to her, because that ban was only because of
negative consequences that might result from it. But it should be limited
only to talking to her, and not visiting her. It is better if it is done
with your family’s knowledge; perhaps they know something that you do not.
Keeping company with some people may lead to damaging one’s reputation or
being thought badly of, and news of that relationship may reach the
husband. 
May Allaah help us and you
to do that which He loves and which pleases Him, and divert fitnah
(temptation, trouble), both apparent and hidden, away from us. 
And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.Firstly: 
The situation you are in does not only have to do with praying in the mosque, rather it has to do with other duties which require you to go out of the house, such as upholding ties of kinship, earning money so that you can live, seeking knowledge, enjoining what is good, forbidding what is evil, and so on. 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 
The fact of the matter is that mixing may sometimes be obligatory or mustahabb. An individual may be enjoined to mix with others sometimes and to remain alone sometimes. That depends on the purpose. If mixing with others is for the purpose of cooperating in righteousness and piety, then it is enjoined; but if it is for the purpose of cooperating in sin and transgression, then it is forbidden. Mixing with Muslims is a kind of worship, as in the case of the five daily prayers, Jumu’ah, Eid, eclipse prayers, prayers for rain and so on. This is something that Allah and His Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) have enjoined. The same applies to mixing with them on Hajj and when fighting the kuffaar and rebels, even if the leaders of that are evildoers and even if there are some evildoers among the people involved. 
The same applies to being involved in gatherings that increase a person’s faith, either because he benefits from these gatherings or he can benefit others, and so on. 
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 10/425 
Thus you can see that the way you are is something that is not pleasing to the Lord of the Worlds, and you have to look again at the situation and realise that what you are doing is a trick from the shaytaan who is making your situation and your bad deed look good to you. Beware of him and his tricks, and get ready to fight him, and trust that your Lord will help you by granting victory against him. 
Secondly: 
If you feel distress when mixing with people, then we can be certain that you will never be better off on your own or in isolation. Rather the wolf eats the sheep that wanders off from the flock and the shaytaan overpowers those who are solitary and do not have helpers to help them obey their Lord or supporters who will support them against the shaytaan and his troops. Even if you find some annoyance in mixing with people, that mixing, if you bear it with patience, is still better than not mixing. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) praised the one who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience. 
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the one who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (5207) and Ibn Maajah (4032). 
Moreover, there is no reason for your isolation and you do not have — as far as we can see — any justification for which we would encourage you to remain like that. We feel that any isolation which results in you not praying jumu’ah for prayers in congregation is not acceptable and we do not encourage it. 
Some of the reasons for isolation include total corruption of people, lack of people to support you in adhering to the truth, each person admiring his own opinion, and lack of benefit in sincerely advising people. By Allah’s grace, none of these are applicable in Muslim societies or even in kaafir societies. We have heard of thousands of kuffaar who are entering the religion of Allah all the time, and we hear of others like them, sinners who have begun to follow the path of guidance. Indeed we find that people are thirsting for those who will quench their thirst and they are hungry for those who will feed them, in spiritual terms of goodness and guidance. 
As for your justification for isolation, namely shar’i knowledge, we do not think this is the case. You are preferring isolation to the kind of mixing that is obligatory, so if you are neglecting Islamic duties because of this isolation of yours, what kind of sha’i knowledge do you have so that we could tell you to keep away from people and focus on obeying your Lord and preserving your religious commitment? Hence Abu Sulaymaan al-Khattaabi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Isolation only benefits scholars and wise men, but it is the most harmful of things for the ignorant. And he narrated from Ibraaheem that he said to Mugheerah: Acquire deep understanding of Islam, then you can isolate yourself. 
See: al-‘Azlah by al-Khattaabi, p. 225 
Thirdly: 
As you have written to us — and we appreciate that — this means that you are still holding on to a thread and the beginning of the right way to bring you out of this fatal loneliness. You have entered the world of the Internet, which is millions of times greater than your small world that you have forsaken. In this vast world there is far more evil than in your forsaken world. So beware of that, for how much temptation it has caused to righteous people and how much evil it has caused to righteous and chaste women. 
Strive to do the acts of worship which Allah has enjoined on you, first and foremost among which is praying in congregation in the mosque. In the answer to question number 8918 you will find the evidence for this duty. You also have to earn permissible income so as to protect your dignity and spare you from having to ask of people, and so that you can honour your parents and take care of them and help them to buy what they need or help them to get to the places they want to go, and uphold ties of kinship with your family and relatives. 
You should remember that this world will never be free of hardships, worries and distress. If you want a place where there is none of these things, with complete happiness and ease, a good life and the pleasure of Allah, then you will find that in the Paradise of Allah in the Hereafter. So strive for that Day and rid yourself of that which may cause you distress in this world by reducing your involvement in it; ask Allah to help you to attain that, and remember that isolating oneself is nothing more than being alone with the Shaytaan, and it will only bring you more worries and distress. Do you not see that the punishment of imprisonment is painful for the free man, and the worst form of it is solitary confinement? So how can you prefer for yourself that which prisoners would sacrifice that which is most dear to them in order to escape?  
We ask Allah to guide you to the truth and to help you to follow the path of the righteous among His slaves; were it not for the fact that Allah decreed that they should mix with people and establish acts of worship, we and you would not have known Islam or had the honour of belonging to it. So become one of the troops of Islam, wield your weapon in the face of your shaytaan and make up for what you have missed by striving hard and doing acts of worship on a solid basis. 
And Allah is the source of strength.