Tag: Muamalah

Praise be to Allah.We asked Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Jibreen the following question:
 A person has breasts which resemble a woman’s breasts. Is it permissible for him to have surgery to reduce them?
 He (may Allaah preserve him) replied as follows:
 You must try to lose weight, then the fat around the breast will be reduced.
 If what you have is not a result of fat (and it is causing you trouble), and you can do an operation to reduce it without any harm involved, that will be OK.

Praise be to Allah.
She should praise Allaah for the blessings of guidance and be
steadfast in adhering to the truth. She should do a lot of acts of worship
and obedience. She should try her utmost not to be alone with her father in
the house. She does not have to tell her husband about what happened, if she
gets married. She should ask Allaah to conceal it and to grant her a way
out.

 Her father is a criminal who should be advised, rebuked and
deterred.

 We ask Allaah to keep us all safe and sound.

Praise be to Allah.The point of reference for Islamic rulings must be the texts of the Quran and Sunnah, not one’s own opinion, mood, desire or ideas about what is nice. Concerning this very issue many reports have been narrated which strictly forbid this (women wearing perfume when they go out). These reports include saheeh ahaadeeth in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade women to wear perfume when they go out of their houses:

Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari said: the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.”

Zaynab al-Thaqafiyyah reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If any one of you (women) goes out to the mosque, let her not touch any perfume.”

Abu Hurayrah said: the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Any woman who has scented herself with bakhoor (incense), let her not attend ‘Ishaa’ prayers with us.”

Moosa ibn Yassaar said that a woman passed by Abu Hurayrah and her scent was overpowering. He said, “O female slave of al-Jabbaar, are you going to the mosque?” She said, “Yes,” He said, “And have you put on perfume because of that?” She said, “Yes.” He said, “Go back and wash yourself, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: ‘If a woman comes out to the mosque and her fragrance is overpowering, Allah will not accept any prayer from her until she goes home and washes herself.’”

The reason for this prohibition is quite clear, which is that women’s fragrance may cause undue provocation of desires. The scholars also included other things under this heading of things to be avoided by women who want to go to the mosque, such as beautiful clothes, jewellery that can be seen, excessive adornments and mingling with men. See Fath al-Baari, 2/279.
Ibn Daqeeq al-‘Eed said:
This indicates that it is forbidden for a woman who wants to go to the mosque to wear perfume, because this causes provocation of men’s desires. This was reported by al-Manaawi in Fayd al-Qadeer, in the commentary on the first hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah quoted above.
Having examined all this saheeh evidence, there can be no room for debate or argument. Muslim women have to understand the seriousness of the issue and the sin involved in going against this shar’i ruling. They should remember that they are going out to seek reward, not to fall into sin. We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound.
By the way, we recently read that biologists have discovered a sexual gland in the nose, i.e., there is a direct connection between the sense of smell and the provocation of desire. If this is true, then it is one of the signs that prove even to the kuffaar how precise are the rulings of this sharee’ah which came to preserve chastity and to block the ways that lead to immorality.

Praise be to Allah.
When a Muslim is able to do Hajj, he should hasten to do it,
and it is not permissible for him to delay it for no reason, because the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Hasten to do
Hajj – i.e., the obligatory Hajj – for none of you knows what will happen to
him.” (Narrated by Ahmad, 2721; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
al-Irwa’, 990). And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “Whoever wants to do Hajj, let him hasten to do so.” (Classed as hasan
by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 1524). 
What you have mentioned
about your brother’s problems is not a reason for delaying Hajj, because
Hajj will not prevent him from dealing with this problem, since it is within
his power to try to solve this problem and finish with it before he goes for
Hajj. His Hajj may be the means of his problem being solved, because of the
help from Allaah it may bring and the blessing (barakah) of Hajj and
obedience to Allaah. It may be that he will make du’aa’ during his Hajj with
regard to this matter, and Allaah will answer and relieve him of this
distress. 

Moreover, our advice to your brother is that he should not
hasten to divorce his wife, rather he should take his time and not rush into
anything. For divorce is something that Allaah dislikes. 

If the problem between him and his wife is because of
negligence on her part regarding one of the duties towards Allaah, such as
if she neglects to pray or is not chaste, etc, then he has to warn her and
remind her about Allaah, and call her to Allaah, and try to guide her to
obey Allaah. If she persists in not responding to him, then in that case
there is nothing to be gained by keeping her. 

But if the problem between them is of the common type of
problems between spouses, and has to do with differences of opinion
concerning day to day life and household matters, etc., then he has to be
patient and treat her kindly, and try hard to correct what he thinks is
inappropriate. For Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“and live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it
may be that you dislike a thing and Allaah brings through it a great deal of
good”

[al-Nisa’ 4:19]
The husband has to live
with his wife honourably and keep her company in a good way, refraining from
harming her, and treating her kindly. Living with her honourably also means
putting up with any annoyance that his wife may cause him, and he should
remember that he will have a great reward for that from Allaah. 

A man may dislike his wife, but he keeps her out of obedience
to Allaah and treats her kindly, and then Allaah brings about a great deal
of good from that. He may be blessed with righteous children from her who
will benefit him in this world and in the Hereafter; or his dislike may be
taken away and replaced with love, as often happens. 

The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman; if he dislikes
one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another.” (Narrated by
Muslim, 1469). What this means is that it is not appropriate for a believing
man to hate a believing woman, because even if he finds some bad
characteristic in her for which he may dislike her, he will find another,
praiseworthy, characteristic for which he will love her, such as her being
chaste or kind or obedient, or some other good characteristic. The same is
true of all people, each person has some good attributes and some bad
attributes. As the poet said: 

“Who is there that is pleasing in all his characteristics? It
is enough honour for a man’s faults to be few enough to count.” 

The wise man is the one who weighs up both the good
characteristics and the bad. 

Your brother should make a lot of du’aa’ in the places and at
the times when du’aa’ is especially encouraged, during Hajj and otherwise,
asking that Allaah may reconcile him with his wife and create love between
their hearts. 
And Allaah knows best. May Allaah bestow
blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad.

Praise be to Allah.Basically the righteous wife should be obedient to her Lord and not
disobedient to her husband. There is no better deed than a woman obeying her husband as
Allaah has commanded, at the time when he is disobeying Him with regard to her.
The husband has the right to stop his wife from visiting her family
– if he thinks that doing so will serve some shar’i purpose, for example, if she
is rebellious towards him every time she comes back from visiting them. But if he is doing
them wrong and they are not disobedient towards Allaah and they do not try to turn his
wife against him, then the husband is a sinner if he cuts their daughter off from them.
She also has to obey him with regard to not going out.
The husband has the right to relocate his family wherever he thinks will
be good for them, and his wife does not have the right to disobey him with regard to that,
unless it was made a condition in the marriage contract that he would not make her move.
If this condition was not stipulated, then she has no right to object.
Good treatment of wives is a duty enjoined upon husbands by Allaah, when
He said (interpretation of the meaning): “… and live with them
honourably…” [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. The husband does not have the right to
treat his wife badly. If he sees her doing something that goes against the sharee’ah,
he should follow the steps laid down by sharee’ah to put the matter right. Firstly,
he should exhort her in a good manner, and if that does not work, he should adopt the
method of forsaking her (i.e., not having marital relations with her). If that does not
work, then he may strike her, in a manner that does not cause pain or injury.
If the husband does treat his wife badly, that does not mean that she
should disobey him or go against what Allaah has commanded her to do with regard to him.
We advise the sister to do the following:
strive hard to do things that will please her husband such as speaking
nicely and treating him well.

To deal with him not on the basis that she is his opponent and his equal
with regard to commanding and forbidding, but on the basis that she is obedient to him and
is at his beck and call, because this will make a decent man feel shy, and will make
matters easier for her and help her to convince him. But he is the one who is in charge of
her (he is qawwaam over her), not the other way round.

She should offer lots of du’aa’ for her husband to be reformed
and for things to be made easy for her. She should put things right between herself and
her Lord so that Allaah will put things right between her and other people.

There is nothing wrong with asking someone whose religious commitment
she trusts and who is wise to intervene between her and her husband, to convince him to
change his mind about moving, if she thinks that this would have a bad effect on her
religious commitment or that it would make matters between them worse. Otherwise, she
should accept what Allaah has decreed for her.

We ask Allaah to make things easy for her and to choose for her whatever
is better for her spiritual and worldly interests.

And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.Undoubtedly man may be afflicted with psychological problems such as worries about the future and grief over the past. Psychological problems affect the body more than physical problems do. We should know that the worries and distress that affect a person are among the things that expiate his sins and reduce the burden of sin; if he is patient and seeks reward with Allaah, he will be rewarded for that. 
Treating these problems in the ways prescribed in Islam is more effective than treating them with physical medicine, as is well known. 
One of the treatments prescribed in Islam is to recite the du’aa’s narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to relieve worries and distress, for example, the saheeh hadeeth narrated from Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him): “There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatija naasyati bi yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghayb ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana al-‘Azeema rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Holy Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),’ but Allaah will take away his distress and grief.” This is one of the remedies prescribed in sharee’ah. One may also say: “Laa ilaaha illa anta, subhaanaka inni kuntu min al-zaalimeen (There is no god but You, glorified (and exalted) are You, truly I have been of the wrongdoers).” [cf. al-Anbiya’ 21:87] 
Another form of treatment is ruqya with which a person may treat himself – which is better. The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to do ruqyah for himself by reciting al-Mi’wadhatayn (the last two soorahs of the Qur’aan) when he went to sleep, then he would wipe his face and whatever he could of his body. Or a person may go to someone whose religious commitment he trusts to do ruqyah for him. 
If he wants to know more, he can refer to what the scholars have written about du’aa’ such as al-Waabil al-Sayyib by Ibn al-Qayyim, al-Kalim al-Tayyib by Shaykh al-Islam, al-Adhkaar by al-Nawawi, and Zaad al-Ma’aad by Ibn al-Qayyim. 
From the fatwas of al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Kitaab Fataawa Islamiyyah, vol. 4, p. 465-467.

Praise be to Allah.First of all, we would like to congratulate our sister for embracing
Islam, which is the joy for which wealth and souls would be sacrificed, for all the
blessing of Islam makes all grief and distress fade into insignificance.
The sister says that she loves a Muslim man. We say: it is not
appropriate for a Muslim woman to fall into the trap of nonsensical emotions and forbidden
relationships into which others fall. The love which people hear about and read about is
one of the dazzling tricks of the Shaytaan, and it usually happens with regard to things
that Allaah has forbidden. If a man finds that he likes a girl, the only option he has is
to ask her guardian (walee) for permission to marry her.
The mans mothers comment that new Muslims cannot be good
Muslims is false. Were the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them) anything but new
Muslims, given that prior to their Islam they had been believers in Shirk? Does any
Muslim have any doubts about their commitment to religion and their character? Moreover,
we see that many new Muslims are many times better than many (born) Muslims! Just because
a Muslim is new does not mean that he will never be good, and just because a Muslim is
born in Islam does not mean that he is good. What counts is Taqwa (piety, awareness of
Allaah) and righteous deeds, as well as the length of time one has been in Islam and has
been worshipping Allaah.
There is no reason why knowledge of the man’s marriage should not be
withheld from his parents, especially since this is in the interests of the sister and
there are so few people who can help her to overcome her difficulties. It is the woman who
needs a walee according to shareeah, not the man. However, we would prefer that he
wins his familys approval by convincing them, because this is in their best
interests, benefits which may be lost if they find out that their son concealed his
marriage from them.
The fact that the husband says he wants to call the children to Islam is
good. We ask Allaah to help him to achieve this. The fact that the Hindu father is evil is
sufficient reason for him not to make an open display of his calling the children to
Islam, if that could lead to this kaafir taking the children away by going to the kaafir
courts. You have to act with wisdom in this case.
The woman who is asking this question should not arrange her own
marriage even if she has been previously married, because shareeah does not permit
this. If she does not have a walee as required by shareeah, then her walee may be
the qaadi (judge) or whoever is in charge of the Muslim affairs in her country, such as
the head of the Islamic centre or his deputy.
They especially the sister have to seek the help of Allaah
in dealing with these problems which are giving her sleepless nights. Everyone should know
that whoever puts his trust in Allaah, Allaah will show him a way out. She has to make
duaa sincerely, and he has to try as hard as he can to advise his family and
change their views about new Muslims by showing them real examples of people who are the
opposite of what they think. With regard to the tragedy caused by the former husband, we
advise her again not to make an open display of her calling the children to Islam, lest
that should cause the father to do something that will have bad consequences. If they feel
suspicious about his intentions, there is no harm in calling the police to do whatever is
necessary with regard to him.
If getting married means that the sister will lose her right to custody
of her children, we advise her not to get married now, for fear that these two souls may
end up in Hell in the Hereafter unless she fears that she herself may commit some
immoral action, in which case she should marry the Muslim man whom she has told us about,
with witnesses and a walee as we have stated above. Publicizing the marriage is sunnah,
although it does not have to be announced officially and in writing. But this sister has
to live in a protective Muslim environment and those people will have to know about her
marriage lest she bring upon herself gossip about her honour. If it will be better for her
to leave the place where her ex-husband lives and move to another place where she can be
free, have custody of her children and be able to marry a believing Muslim man who will
protect her and her children, then she should do that.
She has to make duaa and turn to Allaah to relieve her
distress and grief. We pray that Allaah will give her the strength to do that which He
loves and which pleases Him.
And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.
The story you tell in your question in and of itself offers a
serious lesson to every girl who follows her whims and desires, fails to
obey Allaah and leaves her family and her home in order to commit sin in an
atmosphere of fitnah. Your question also offers a lesson to every sinner, to
look at the consequences to which their sin may lead them. We ask Allaah to
forgive us, you and every Muslim man and woman. 

With regard to the marriage contract between you and him, if
it was not done in the presence of your guardian and with his approval –
which is what seems to be the case – then it is not valid, and it is haraam
for you to stay with him in this case or to let him be intimate with you,
because he is not your husband. The Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said, “There is no marriage (nikaah) without a guardian
(wali).” And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any
woman who gets married without the permission of her guardian, her marriage
is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” 

I advise you to do a number of things: 

1 – You must ask him to put this matter right, by making a
new marriage contract with you, with a mahr (dowry) and the presence of your
guardian and two witnesses. From what you say it seems that your family now
approve of your marriage to him. So there is nothing to prevent you putting
this haraam situation right. If that is not done then he is not your
husband, and it is haraam for you to stay with him. 

2 – I advise you to be patient and to seek reward with Allaah
for the difficulties and stress that you are facing. For these difficulties
will be an expiation for your previous sins. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No worry or grief befalls a
believer, not even a thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will expiate thereby
some of his sins.” Your patience will end in a way out, in sha Allah. As the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The way out
comes with patience.” 

3 – Note that unpleasant things only happen to people because
of their sins. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of
what your hands have earned. And He pardons much”

[al-Shoora 42:30]
The difficulties and
unhappiness that you are going through may be a punishment from Allaah for
your disobeying your family and committing this haraam action. But your
regret and putting this matter right, in sha Allaah, will be your
repentance, for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “Regret is repentance.” I hope that Allaah will take away from you, as
a result of this repentance, the worry and distress that you are feeling. 
4 – Make a lot of du’aa’
and feel that you are in need of Allaah and have no one else to turn to.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Is not He (better
than your gods) Who responds to the distressed one, when he calls on Him,
and Who removes the evil…?”[al-Naml 27:62] 
“And your Lord said:
“Invoke Me [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism) and ask Me for
anything] I will respond to your (invocation)”[Ghaafir 40:60]
If a person is helped (by
Allaah) to make du’aa’, then his prayer will be answered. Make the most of
the times and places where du’aa’ is answered, such as when prostrating,
before saying the tasleem at the end of the prayer, in the last third of the
night, and on Fridays, especially after ‘Asr prayer. 
5 – You have to advise
your husband and cooperate with him in obeying Allaah. Take him by the hand
and start a new life in which your aim is to please Allaah. May Allaah help
you both to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. And Allaah knows
best.

Praise be to Allah.No doubt your brother is in a state of major crisis, and we ask Allaah to help you to deal with this crisis.
We advise you to be kind and gentle when you deal with him and advise him, because attention must be paid to his condition, just as with all other sick people – whether they are suffering from a disease of the mind or of the body.
You have to do everything you can to stop him from having the drugs and to stop him from meeting the bad friends who are giving or selling him the stuff and thus helping him to do wrong.
You should not give him anything he wants, if you can withhold it from him, until he gives up what he is doing.
We advise you to consult with a specialist doctor who can treat him properly until he gets better and gives up this habit.
If he has young sons or daughters, or brothers and sisters, we suggest that they should also advise him and denounce what he is doing. Perhaps then he will give up because he feels ashamed in front of his children or siblings.
You could describe to him, with the support of other people’s testimonials, how he looks and behaves when he is in an intoxicated state and is out of his mind, so that when he comes back to his senses he will see the evil sin that he has committed.
Do not forget to pray to Allaah to help him to get rid of this habit. Try to make du’aa’ during the last third of the night, and may Allaah show you the way out. We ask Allaah to guide him and to give you patience. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

Praise be to Allah.
I advise your father and the father of this woman not to
prevent this marriage, so long as there is no shar’i reason to prevent it.
If your brother loves this woman and she loves him, then it is in their
interests to get married. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said: “There is nothing better for two people who are in love than
marriage,” i.e., if a man loves a woman and she loves him, then let them get
married, and that will calm them down and protect them from doing anything
haraam. Isn’t their getting married better for him, for her and for their
families than their falling into something that Allaah has forbidden? The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, addressing
the guardians of women, if a man comes to propose marriage: “If there comes
to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased,
then marry (your daughter) to him; if you do not do that then there will be
fitnah (tribulation) and widespread corruption on earth.” 

But if there is a shar’i reason to prevent that, then our
advice to your brother is to obey his father and to remain chaste, and to
strive hard in doing so. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said: “Whoever strives to be chaste, Allaah will help him to be
chaste,” i.e., whoever does his utmost to be chaste, Allaah will grant him
chastity and help him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will
surely guide them to Our paths (i.e. Allaah’s religion — Islamic
Monotheism)” [al-‘Ankaboot 29:69]
And he should look for
another wife who will help him with his religious commitment and his worldly
interests. 

With regard to witchcraft, if a person regularly reads
Qur’aan and recites the adhkaar that the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) used to recite when going to sleep, when waking up,
in the morning and the evening and at other times and in other
circumstances, then he will protect himself thereby from the accursed
Shaytaan. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Allaah enjoined five things upon Yahya ibn Zakariyya, which he was to
follow and to enjoin upon the Children of Israel…” then he mentioned them,
among which was: “and He commands you to remember Him. The likeness of that
is of a man who is being pursued by his enemy, until he comes to a strong
fortress where he protects himself from them. Similarly a person cannot
protect himself against the Shaytaan with anything better than the
remembrance of Allaah (dhikr).” 

Al-Mi’wadhaat (soorahs seeking protection with Allaah) are
among the greatest things by means of which a person may protect himself
against witchcraft, so recite them in the morning and in the evening, after
every prayer and before going to sleep. 

Make a lot of du’aa’ for your brother, that Allaah may guide
him and grant him wisdom. And Allaah knows best.