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The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “He who slaps the cheeks, tears the clothes and follows the tradition of the Days of
Ignorance is not from us.”

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “He who slaps the cheeks, tears the clothes and follows the traditions of the Days of
Ignorance is not from us.”

When the Prophet (ﷺ) got the news of the death of Ibn Haritha, Ja`far and Ibn Rawaha he sat down and
looked sad and I was looking at him through the chink of the door. A man came and told him about
the crying of the women of Ja`far. The Prophet (ﷺ) ordered him to forbid them. The man went and came
back saying that he had told them but they did not listen to him. The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “Forbid
them.” So again he went and came back for the third time and said, “O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)! By Allah, they
did not listen to us at all.” (`Aisha added): Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) ordered him to go and put dust in their
mouths. I said, (to that man) “May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)! You could
neither (persuade the women to) fulfill the order of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) nor did you relieve Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)
from fatigue. ”

When the reciters of Qur’an were martyred, Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) recited Qunut for one month and I never
saw him (i.e. Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)) so sad as he was on that day.

One of the sons of Abu Talha became sick and died and Abu Talha at that time was not at home.
When his wife saw that he was dead, she prepared him (washed and shrouded him) and placed him
somewhere in the house. When Abu Talha came, he asked, “How is the boy?” She said, “The child is
quiet and I hope he is in peace.” Abu Talha thought that she had spoken the truth. Abu Talha passed
the night and in the morning took a bath and when he intended to go out, she told him that his son had
died, Abu Talha offered the (morning) prayer with the Prophet (ﷺ) and informed the Prophet (ﷺ) of what
happened to them. Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “May Allah bless you concerning your night. (That is, may
Allah bless you with good offspring).” Sufyan said, “One of the Ansar said, ‘They (i.e. Abu Talha and
his wife) had nine sons and all of them became reciters of the Qur’an (by heart).’ ”

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “The real patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.”

We went with Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) to the blacksmith Abu Saif, and he was the husband of the
wet-nurse of Ibrahim (the son of the Prophet). Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) took Ibrahim and kissed him and
smelled him and later we entered Abu Saif’s house and at that time Ibrahim was in his last breaths, and
the eyes of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) started shedding tears. `Abdur Rahman bin `Auf said, “O Allah’s
Apostle, even you are weeping!” He said, “O Ibn `Auf, this is mercy.” Then he wept more and said,
“The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our
Lord, O Ibrahim ! Indeed we are grieved by your separation.”

Sa`d bin ‘Ubada became sick and the Prophet (ﷺ) along with `Abdur Rahman bin `Auf, Sa`d bin Abi
Waqqas and `Abdullah bin Mas`ud visited him to inquire about his health. When he came to him, he
found him surrounded by his household and he asked, “Has he died?” They said, “No, O Allah’s
Apostle.” The Prophet (ﷺ) wept and when the people saw the weeping of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) they all
wept. He said, “Will you listen? Allah does not punish for shedding tears, nor for the grief of the heart
but he punishes or bestows His Mercy because of this.” He pointed to his tongue and added, “The
deceased is punished for the wailing of his relatives over him.” `Umar used to beat with a stick and
throw stones and put dust over the faces (of those who used to wail over the dead).

When the news of the martyrdom of Zaid bin Haritha, Ja`far and `Abdullah bin Rawaha came, the
Prophet sat down looking sad, and I was looking through the chink of the door. A man came and said,
“O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)! The women of Ja`far,” and then he mentioned their crying . The Prophet (p.b.u.h)
ordered him to stop them from crying. The man went and came back and said, “I tried to stop them but
they disobeyed.” The Prophet (p.b.u.h) ordered him for the second time to forbid them. He went again
and came back and said, “They did not listen to me, (or “us”: the sub-narrator Muhammad bin
Haushab is in doubt as to which is right). ” (`Aisha added: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Put dust in their
mouths.” I said (to that man), “May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you).” By Allah,
you could not (stop the women from crying) to fulfill the order, besides you did not relieve Allah’s
Apostle from fatigue.”

At the time of giving the pledge of allegiance to the Prophet (ﷺ) one of the conditions was that we would
not wail, but it was not fulfilled except by five women and they are Um Sulaim, Um Al-`Ala’, the
daughter of Abi Sabra (the wife of Mu`adh), and two other women; or the daughter of Abi Sabra and
the wife of Mu`adh and another woman.