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One of the sons of Um ‘Atiyya died, and when it was the third day she asked for a yellow perfume and
put it over her body, and said, “We were forbidden to mourn for more than three days except for our
husbands.”

When the news of the death of Abu Sufyan reached from Sham, Um Habiba on the third day, asked
for a yellow perfume and scented her cheeks and forearms and said, “No doubt, I would not have been
in need of this, had I not heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying: “It is not legal for a woman who believes in Allah
and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days for any dead person except her husband, for
whom she should mourn for four months and ten days.”

I went to Um Habiba, the wife of Prophet, who said, “I heard the Prophets saying, ‘It is not legal for a
woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn for any dead person for more than three days
except for her husband, (for whom she should mourn) for four months and ten days’.” Later I went to
Zainab bint Jahsh when her brother died; she asked for some scent, and after using it she said, “I am
not in need of scent but I heard Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) saying, ‘It is not legal for a woman who believes in
Allah and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days for any dead person except her husband,
(for whom she should mourn) for four months and ten days.’ ”

The Prophet (ﷺ) passed by a woman who was weeping beside a grave. He told her to fear Allah and be
patient. She said to him, “Go away, for you have not been afflicted with a calamity like mine.” And
she did not recognize him. Then she was informed that he was the Prophet (ﷺ) . so she went to the house
of the Prophet (ﷺ) and there she did not find any guard. Then she said to him, “I did not recognize you.”
He said, “Verily, the patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.”

The daughter of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) sent (a messenger) to the Prophet (ﷺ) requesting him to come as her
child was dying (or was gasping), but the Prophet (ﷺ) returned the messenger and told him to convey his
greeting to her and say: “Whatever Allah takes is for Him and whatever He gives, is for Him, and
everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world) and so she should be patient and hope for
Allah’s reward.” She again sent for him, swearing that he should come. The Prophet (ﷺ) got up, and so did
Sa`d bin ‘Ubada, Mu`adh bin Jabal, Ubai bin Ka`b, Zaid bin Thabit and some other men. The child
was brought to Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) while his breath was disturbed in his chest (the sub-narrator thinks that
Usama added: ) as if it was a leather water-skin. On that the eyes of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) started
shedding tears. Sa`d said, “O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)! What is this?” He replied, “It is mercy which Allah has
lodged in the hearts of His slaves, and Allah is merciful only to those of His slaves who are merciful
(to others).

A man fell from his Mount and died while he was with the Prophet (ﷺ) at `Arafat. The Prophet (ﷺ) said,
“Wash him with water and Sidr and shroud him in two pieces of cloth and neither perfume him nor
cover his head, for he will be resurrected on the Day of Resurrection saying, ‘Labbaik’.”

We were (in the funeral procession) of one of the daughters of the Prophet (ﷺ) and he was sitting by the
side of the grave. I saw his eyes shedding tears. He said, “Is there anyone among you who did not
have sexual relations with his wife last night?” Abu Talha replied in the affirmative. And so the
Prophet told him to get down in the grave. And so he got down in her grave.

When `Abdullah bin Ubai (the chief of hypocrites) died, his son came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, “O
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)! Please give me your shirt to shroud him in it, offer his funeral prayer and ask for
Allah’s forgiveness for him.” So Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) gave his shirt to him and said, “Inform me
(When the funeral is ready) so that I may offer the funeral prayer.” So, he informed him and when the
Prophet intended to offer the funeral prayer, `Umar took hold of his hand and said, “Has Allah not
forbidden you to offer the funeral prayer for the hypocrites? The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “I have been given the
choice for Allah says: ‘(It does not avail) Whether you (O Muhammad) ask forgiveness for them
(hypocrites), or do not ask for forgiveness for them. Even though you ask for their forgiveness seventy
times, Allah will not forgive them. (9.80)” So the Prophet (ﷺ) offered the funeral prayer and on that the
revelation came: “And never (O Muhammad) pray (funeral prayer) for any of them (i.e. hypocrites)
that dies.” (9. 84)

One of the daughters of `Uthman died at Mecca. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn `Umar
and Ibn `Abbas were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man
came and sat beside me.) `Abdullah bin `Umar said to `Amr bin `Uthman, “Will you not prohibit
crying as Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) has said, ‘The dead person is tortured by the crying of his relatives.?” Ibn
`Abbas said, “`Umar used to say so.” Then he added narrating, “I accompanied `Umar on a journey
from Mecca till we reached Al-Baida. There he saw some travelers in the shade of a Samura (A kind
of forest tree). He said (to me), “Go and see who those travelers are.” So I went and saw that one of
them was Suhaib. I told this to `Umar who then asked me to call him. So I went back to Suhaib and
said to him, “Depart and follow the chief of the faithful believers.” Later, when `Umar was stabbed,
Suhaib came in weeping and saying, “O my brother, O my friend!” (on this `Umar said to him, “O
Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while the Prophet (ﷺ) said, “The dead person is punished by some of the
weeping of his relatives?” Ibn `Abbas added, “When `Umar died I told all this to Aisha and she said,
‘May Allah be merciful to `Umar. By Allah, Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) did not say that a believer is punished by
the weeping of his relatives. But he said, Allah increases the punishment of a non-believer because of
the weeping of his relatives.” Aisha further added, “The Qur’an is sufficient for you (to clear up this
point) as Allah has stated: ‘No burdened soul will bear another’s burden.’ ” (35.18). Ibn `Abbas then
said, “Only Allah makes one laugh or cry.” Ibn `Umar did not say anything after that.

The Prophet (ﷺ) came to (the grave of) `Abdullah bin Ubai after his body was buried. The body was
brought out and then the Prophet (ﷺ) put his saliva over the body and clothed it in his shirt.