Q n A : His mother treated him badly after he got married

Praise be to Allah.We ask
Allaah to help you to honour your mother and treat her kindly, to set her
straight and to reconcile between you and help you both to obey Him and
please Him. 
What you are
suffering may be caused by feelings of jealousy on your mother’s part, or
because she feels that she has lost you after you got married and someone
else has taken possession of you. Some mothers have these feelings when
their sons get married, but they are inappropriate feelings and she should
strive to rid herself of them. 
You should
try to help her to go back to the way she was before. You can do this in
several ways: 

1-Strive to treat her kindly, by
honouring her, taking care of her and making her feel that you still care
about her as you did before and are still keen to respond to her wishes.

2-Avoid praising your wife or
paying her attention in front of your mother, but still give your wife her
rights to good treatment and respect, doing that out of your mother’s sight,
until your mother’s situation  improves and things go back to normal.

3-Encourage your wife to get
close to your mother, by speaking to her, taking care of her, giving her
gifts and so on.

4-Be patient with her insults,
swearing and throwing you out, for you are commanded to honour her, and it
is not permissible for you to respond to her bad treatment in kind. If you
bear that with patience, then you will find a way out, for good consequences
are for those who are patient, and support comes with patience, and with
hardship comes ease. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Repel
(the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allaah orders the faithful
believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat
them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will
become) as though he was a close friend” [Fussilat 41:34].  Every time
she mistreats you, you should hasten to be kind, honour her and treat her
well. That guarantees that the negative feelings in her heart will go away,
in sha Allaah.

5-Pray for her, that Allaah will
guide her aright and set the situation straight. She is the person who most
deserves your du’aa’s and kind treatment. No matter what you do, you can
never repay her for her kindness and previous good treatment.

6-Strive to be a good example to
your siblings, so that they may learn from you the best way of dealing with
this problem which may happen to them too after they get married. Be an
example of patience, good treatment and respect. Beware of letting the
shaytaan gradually make you scorn her or be rude to her or rebuke her, for
you will never find any good in such things. Allaah says (interpretation of
the meaning): “say not to them a word of
disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour” [al-Isra
17:23].

7-You should discuss the problem
with one of your siblings, for perhaps there are other aspects of the
problem that you are not aware of, or you have done something that has made
your mother angry without realizing it. Finding out the reason will make it
easier for you to deal with the problem.
We ask
Allaah to guide us and you. 
And Allaah
knows best.