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Praise be to Allah.
Firstly, we praise Allah for having guided you to the
truth, and we ask Him to make you steadfast and help you to attain all
that is good. Remember that you have been greatly blessed, and if you
devote your entire life and wealth for that purpose, that will be little
in return for that blessing. Do you know how many millions of people of
your father’s background worship rocks and human beings? Do you know that
all these people believe that the Qur’aan is distorted and they regard the
Sahaabah as kaafirs, apart from a few of them? Do you know that these
people have revived the shirk of Jaahiliyyah and added more forms of shirk
than were known in the past? 

We do not call people to anything except worship of Allah,
may He be exalted, and we also call people to venerate and respect the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and not to impugn his
honour or slander his Companions. As we love all of the Sahaabah and pray
that Allah be pleased with them, and we seek to draw closer to Allah by
loving them, we also love and respect the people of the Prophet’s household
(Ahl al-Bayt), and we seek to draw closer to Allah by loving them. 

Secondly: 

With regard to your dealings with your father, what we advise
you is: 

1.Be kind in your dealings with
him as much as possible.

2.Strive to serve him as much as
you are able, and do not spare any effort in doing so. Do not withhold any
help or kind treatment from him.

3.Focus on your studies and do
not let your neglect of them be a cause of you losing your religious
commitment. What we understand from your message is that your father wants
to take steps to prevent you from accessing our site and other beneficial
Islamic sites because of your studies. So do not give him that excuse; study
and progress in your studies; close the door to your father’s shaytaan so
that he will not be able to make the issue of your studies a means of
preventing you from following true guidance.

4.Do not make an open show of
visiting useful Islamic websites in front of him, and do not make an open
show of your following the path of Ahl al-Sunnah in front of him. Even more
important is not arguing and debating with regard to good matters, because
doing that openly may motivate him to prevent you from following the path of
true guidance.

5.Pray for him and for all of
your family to be guided to the right path. Strive to make this du’aa’ when
you are prostrating and during the last third of the night.

6.Finally, we advise you to use
wisdom in dealing with your father. If he teaches you to pray in the Shi’i
manner and you cannot reject it, then accept it from him and pretend to
agree with him, but pray in the manner established in the sound Sunnah. With
regard to the way the prayer is done, the matter is broad in scope in sha
Allah, and you come under the heading of one who is forced to do something.
You are at an age when you are not old enough to separate from him, so be
patient until the time comes when you can leave, then if Allah guides your
father before that, you can stay with them, or you can leave and live
independently, so as to protect your religious commitment.

And Allah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.
A woman has to cover her entire body, including the face,
from men who are strangers to her (i.e., non-mahrams). She should observe
hijab even more strictly in front of her husband’s male relatives who are
not mahrams for her than in front of strangers. This is the opposite of what
most careless people do nowadays. The Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said, when one of his companions wanted an exception to
allow the husband’s relatives to enter upon his wife: “The in-law is death.”
So we must be more cautious with regard to the husband’s relatives –
including his brothers – because of the carelessness that exists with regard
to this matter.

 Your brother has done well by not allowing his wife to
appear in front of you, and she has done well by obeying the command of
Allaah and of her husband. This is not extremism at all; rather it is
obedience to the command of Allaah. There is no need for the husband’s
brothers to see his wife, let alone sit with her and talk to her. 

Those scholars who said it is permissible for a woman to sit
with her husband’s relatives only allowed it on condition that there is no
suspicion attached to that and that she does not sit alone with one of them,
or there is no listening to songs or watching haraam things on the part of
either of them. Unfortunately such things happen in most people’s
gatherings. If the gathering is free of the above-mentioned evils and haraam
things and the woman observes full hijab, then it is permissible for her to
sit with them and speak to them, so long as she is not soft in speech. But
it is still better and more on the safe side for her not to do that, and
this is what your brother has done, so that hearts may remain pure and free
of the traps by which the Shaytaan ensnares people. 

What your brother has done should not have any effect on your
relationship with him or on the relationship of your wives with his wife.
They are doing something good and acting in accordance with Islam. You
should try to get close to them and learn from them in the way they deal
with people. You should note that your brothers’ criticizing their brother
for concealing his wife from them and not letting her sit with them makes
one have suspicions about them. In sha Allaah they are not that type of
people, but the Shaytaan may make something appear attractive to a man so
that what is good becomes bad to him, and what is bad becomes good, so he
regards covering and modesty as extremism and laxity as trust and progress.
 

We ask Allaah to purify our hearts and bodies, and to bring
you together in a good way, and to reconcile between you, and to make you a
good example to other people. 

See also the answers to questions no.
21363 and
13261 

And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.Firstly: 
The depression that people feel may be a sickness that needs to be treated and needs referral to specialists; or it may be feelings of distress that may be relieved by doing a lot of acts of worship, remembering Allah, keeping company with good and righteous friends, and keeping busy with beneficial actions. For more information on that please see the answer to questions number 22704, 21515 and 100774. 
Whatever the case, Allah has not sent down any disease but He has sent down a cure for it, and there is a remedy for this depression no matter what type it is. The believer should adorn himself with patience and certainty of faith, and he should turn to Allah a great deal and ask of Him, because the keys to goodness are in His hand. How many believing men and women have patiently borne a sickness or calamity or imprisonment, without feeling the need to commit a haraam action. This is the action of people who are discontent with the divine decree and are not patient in accepting what Allah wills; they hasten to rid themselves of what has befallen them by any means, no matter what negative consequences it leads to in this world or the Hereafter.  
Secondly: 
It is not permissible for a woman to ask her husband for divorce except for a legitimate shar’i reason which prevents her from continuing with him, such as his bad treatment or her being put off by him to the extent that she cannot give him his rights. That is because of the reports narrated by Abu Dawood (2226), al-Tirmidhi (1187) and Ibn Maajah (2055) from Thawbaan (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 
And it was narrated from ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Those who ask for khula’ are hypocrite women.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer (17/339); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’. No/ 1934. 
If we assume that the wife in her state of anger, sickness or depression asked her husband for a divorce, when she calms down she will realize her mistake and ask Allah for forgiveness and apologize to her husband.  
If the depression and hardship stem from her relationship with her husband, because of his bad treatment or because she dislikes him, and this is proven by trustworthy people from her family, then they should try to bring about reconciliation and consult the husband with regard to that, so as to reach a solution which will bring the wife out of the state of depression in which she is living. 
Our advice to the questioner — who has mentioned that the reason for her depression is being far away from her family — is that she should be patient and try to get over this crisis. 
Depression — in most cases — happens to the person who has too much free time, who is not keeping himself busy with useful work, whether it has to do with matters of the Hereafter or with worldly matters. 
Keep yourself busy by doing useful things; join a circle for memorizing the Holy Qur’aan; get to know trustworthy sisters who are religiously committed and of good character, and work with them in doing good deeds. 
You can make an agreement with your husband that you can visit your family from time to time, and we also encourage your family to visit you as well. 
The husband has to put up with what he may encounter from his wife, and try to support her and help her to get over this crisis. It is essential for the husband, the wife and her family to cooperate so that things may go back to normal. 
As for divorce, stop thinking about it and overcome the depression that you are faced with. Seek the help of Allah and call upon Him a great deal. 
We ask Allah to set your affairs straight and to help you to do all that is good. 
And Allah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.If your talking to your
friend will not result in any negative consequences such as her brother
trying to talk to you or contact you and the like, then there is nothing
wrong with your talking to her, because that ban was only because of
negative consequences that might result from it. But it should be limited
only to talking to her, and not visiting her. It is better if it is done
with your family’s knowledge; perhaps they know something that you do not.
Keeping company with some people may lead to damaging one’s reputation or
being thought badly of, and news of that relationship may reach the
husband. 
May Allaah help us and you
to do that which He loves and which pleases Him, and divert fitnah
(temptation, trouble), both apparent and hidden, away from us. 
And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.Firstly: 
The situation you are in does not only have to do with praying in the mosque, rather it has to do with other duties which require you to go out of the house, such as upholding ties of kinship, earning money so that you can live, seeking knowledge, enjoining what is good, forbidding what is evil, and so on. 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 
The fact of the matter is that mixing may sometimes be obligatory or mustahabb. An individual may be enjoined to mix with others sometimes and to remain alone sometimes. That depends on the purpose. If mixing with others is for the purpose of cooperating in righteousness and piety, then it is enjoined; but if it is for the purpose of cooperating in sin and transgression, then it is forbidden. Mixing with Muslims is a kind of worship, as in the case of the five daily prayers, Jumu’ah, Eid, eclipse prayers, prayers for rain and so on. This is something that Allah and His Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) have enjoined. The same applies to mixing with them on Hajj and when fighting the kuffaar and rebels, even if the leaders of that are evildoers and even if there are some evildoers among the people involved. 
The same applies to being involved in gatherings that increase a person’s faith, either because he benefits from these gatherings or he can benefit others, and so on. 
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 10/425 
Thus you can see that the way you are is something that is not pleasing to the Lord of the Worlds, and you have to look again at the situation and realise that what you are doing is a trick from the shaytaan who is making your situation and your bad deed look good to you. Beware of him and his tricks, and get ready to fight him, and trust that your Lord will help you by granting victory against him. 
Secondly: 
If you feel distress when mixing with people, then we can be certain that you will never be better off on your own or in isolation. Rather the wolf eats the sheep that wanders off from the flock and the shaytaan overpowers those who are solitary and do not have helpers to help them obey their Lord or supporters who will support them against the shaytaan and his troops. Even if you find some annoyance in mixing with people, that mixing, if you bear it with patience, is still better than not mixing. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) praised the one who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience. 
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the one who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (5207) and Ibn Maajah (4032). 
Moreover, there is no reason for your isolation and you do not have — as far as we can see — any justification for which we would encourage you to remain like that. We feel that any isolation which results in you not praying jumu’ah for prayers in congregation is not acceptable and we do not encourage it. 
Some of the reasons for isolation include total corruption of people, lack of people to support you in adhering to the truth, each person admiring his own opinion, and lack of benefit in sincerely advising people. By Allah’s grace, none of these are applicable in Muslim societies or even in kaafir societies. We have heard of thousands of kuffaar who are entering the religion of Allah all the time, and we hear of others like them, sinners who have begun to follow the path of guidance. Indeed we find that people are thirsting for those who will quench their thirst and they are hungry for those who will feed them, in spiritual terms of goodness and guidance. 
As for your justification for isolation, namely shar’i knowledge, we do not think this is the case. You are preferring isolation to the kind of mixing that is obligatory, so if you are neglecting Islamic duties because of this isolation of yours, what kind of sha’i knowledge do you have so that we could tell you to keep away from people and focus on obeying your Lord and preserving your religious commitment? Hence Abu Sulaymaan al-Khattaabi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Isolation only benefits scholars and wise men, but it is the most harmful of things for the ignorant. And he narrated from Ibraaheem that he said to Mugheerah: Acquire deep understanding of Islam, then you can isolate yourself. 
See: al-‘Azlah by al-Khattaabi, p. 225 
Thirdly: 
As you have written to us — and we appreciate that — this means that you are still holding on to a thread and the beginning of the right way to bring you out of this fatal loneliness. You have entered the world of the Internet, which is millions of times greater than your small world that you have forsaken. In this vast world there is far more evil than in your forsaken world. So beware of that, for how much temptation it has caused to righteous people and how much evil it has caused to righteous and chaste women. 
Strive to do the acts of worship which Allah has enjoined on you, first and foremost among which is praying in congregation in the mosque. In the answer to question number 8918 you will find the evidence for this duty. You also have to earn permissible income so as to protect your dignity and spare you from having to ask of people, and so that you can honour your parents and take care of them and help them to buy what they need or help them to get to the places they want to go, and uphold ties of kinship with your family and relatives. 
You should remember that this world will never be free of hardships, worries and distress. If you want a place where there is none of these things, with complete happiness and ease, a good life and the pleasure of Allah, then you will find that in the Paradise of Allah in the Hereafter. So strive for that Day and rid yourself of that which may cause you distress in this world by reducing your involvement in it; ask Allah to help you to attain that, and remember that isolating oneself is nothing more than being alone with the Shaytaan, and it will only bring you more worries and distress. Do you not see that the punishment of imprisonment is painful for the free man, and the worst form of it is solitary confinement? So how can you prefer for yourself that which prisoners would sacrifice that which is most dear to them in order to escape?  
We ask Allah to guide you to the truth and to help you to follow the path of the righteous among His slaves; were it not for the fact that Allah decreed that they should mix with people and establish acts of worship, we and you would not have known Islam or had the honour of belonging to it. So become one of the troops of Islam, wield your weapon in the face of your shaytaan and make up for what you have missed by striving hard and doing acts of worship on a solid basis. 
And Allah is the source of strength.

Praise be to Allah.
Firstly: 

We ask Allah to make things easy for you and to give you a
way out of hardship and relief from distress. 

Secondly: 

It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to remain married to
a kaafir, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! When believing women come to you as
emigrants, examine them; Allaah knows best as to their Faith, then if you
ascertain that they are true believers send them not back to the
disbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the
disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:10]. 

Although the scholars differed as to whether the one who does
not pray is a kaafir or not, they did not differ as to whether the one who
denies that Allah created the heavens and the earth is a kaafir. 

If a Muslim apostatises, his marriage to his Muslim wife is
rendered null and void. If he comes back to Islam, then their marriage is
reinstated, but if her ‘iddah ends and he is still insisting on apostasy,
then she is now in charge of her own affairs and may marry someone else if
she wishes. Based on that, if your husband persists in his ways, then the
marriage between you is annulled according to sharee’ah and you are no
longer his wife. 

You have to strive to get out of this marriage by whatever
means, either by talaaq or khula’ or something else. 

Beware of making the children a barrier between you and
leaving this man. 

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have
mercy on him) said: 

Many women — Allah forbid — are prevented by the presence
of children from seeking annulment of marriage. This is a serious matter. It
should be said: Annul the marriage; it is not permissible you to stay with
this kaafir who does not pray. Your children will never leave you so long as
their father is like this. He has no guardianship over them, because the
kaafir can have guardianship over a believer. “And never will Allaah
grant to the disbelievers a way (to triumph) over the believers” [al-Nisa’
4:141]. So you and your children cannot be separated. As for this
husband, there is nothing good in him. You should forsake this kaafir
husband and it is haraam to let him be intimate with you; this is a great
evil. End quote. 

Al-Sharh al-Mumti’ ‘ala Zaad al-Mustaqni’,
12/250 

We advise you to take your case to the Islamic centres in
your country and to the Muslims, and ask them for help. They know better
than us how to deal with this problem, as they are present in that country. 

We criticise your family’s attitude towards you. We
understand from your question that you chose this husband and chose to live
with him without your family’s approval. This was a great mistake on your
part, and you have paid the price for that, but that does not mean that your
family should abandon you. Keep getting in touch with them and ask good and
wise people among your relatives to mediate between you and them so that
they will help you and stand beside you during this difficult time. 

You should understand that what is happening to you now is
the result of previous mistakes, among the greatest of which were getting
married and travelling without your family’s approval, then choosing to
reside in a kaafir state rather than living in a Muslim land. 

This is the price for living in that doomed land. 

You have to try to leave that country without delay, and go
back to your family and your country; take the children with you and bring
them up in Islam, teach them to memorise the Book of Allah, instead of them
seeing the bad example that prevents them from following the true path. 

Hence it is right that you should weep night and day for how
you have ended up. But weeping does not achieve any benefit. So hasten to do
something and strive to change this situation, by annulling the marriage
contract and not letting him be intimate with you, and by returning to your
family and your country. 

We ask Allah to make things easy for you and to protect your
religious commitment and to make your children righteous. 

And Allah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.
We ask Allah to guide you and accept your repentance. 

We advise you not to tell your husband about this matter and
strive to repent from it and give it up. 

Always bear in mind that Allah is watching you and can see
what you are doing at all times. This is most likely to make you feel shy
before Him and venerate Him. 

You should always remember death and the Hereafter and the
Reckoning. If a person remembers death a great deal he will inevitably
prepare for it by doing righteous deeds and repenting from sin. 

Cut off all ties with this girl immediately. If you can move
from that job, that is essential. Continuing the relationship between you
means that there is no repentance and that the sin will continue. 

Rather we tell you: if you can move from that city
altogether, then do that and do not hesitate. 

There is no remedy for this disease except keeping away from
that girl altogether. 

As for your prayer being accepted, that is up to Allah, but
be wary of giving up prayer; rather you should strive to do a great deal of
it and to read Qur’aan, in the hope that this may be a means of Allah
accepting your repentance and guiding you. 

Listen to lectures and exhortations by well-known scholars
and daa’iyahs who are known for their trustworthiness, religious commitment,
sincerity and knowledge. Think about how Allah is forbearing towards you.
How can He be forbearing when you are persisting in disobeying Him? If He so
willed, He could punish you for this sin and you would have a bad end. Think
about how Allah has concealed your sin. What would you do if your husband
and other people found out what you are doing; it would be a big scandal.
How would your life be after that? So hasten to repent before Allah hastens
your death or punishment, in which case regret would be to no avail. 

The gate of repentance is open and Allah accepts the
repentant slave and rejoices over him; He forgives him and accepts his
repentance no matter what his sin. The one who repent from sin is like one who did not sin at all. 

We ask Allah to guide you.

Praise be to Allah.
Firstly: 

When a husband conceals his second marriage, in most cases
that leads to some kind of injustice for his new wife, as he will be
confused and uncertain and will be afraid that he may do something that
would lead to his first wife finding out that he has taken a second wife.
This may lead him into a series of mistakes. 

As you agreed to that at first, then you have to put up with
what happens to you in some ways and you have to try to set things straight
in other ways. 

If your husband had an excuse — in your view — before his
marriage to you was discovered, then he has no excuse now. What he has to do
is to teach you and his first wife fairly with regard to spending the night.
However many nights he spends there, he has to spend the same number of
nights with you, and you have the right to demand this right which Allaah
has obliged him to give and that Allaah has given to you. If he persists in
refusing, then you have the choice: either you can accept your life with him
and put up with it until Allaah grants you relief — which is what we
recommend — or you can choose to leave him. 

As the matter has been discovered, we advise you to appoint
as an intermediary someone who has knowledge and is of good character, who
can intervene between you to resolve your problem with him and make him do
that which Allaah has obliged him to do of treating you and his first wife
fairly, and registering your daughter officially. This is something that is
essential. How can he accept for his daughter to remain like that, with no
recorded lineage and with her rights exposed to loss? 

Now the matter is up to you. Advise him and remind him of
Allaah, and if he does not respond, then appoint as intermediaries wise
people from among your family, or from among your family and his, to advise
him and make him adhere to that which Allaah has enjoined upon him of
treating his wives fairly and registering his daughter in the official
records. 

Ask Allaah to help and guide you and him. We ask Allaah to
bring you together on the basis of good and to make it easy for you to do
that which pleases Him. 

And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allah.
Firstly: 

Many women do not understand the difference between jealousy,
doubt and suspicion, and they do not understand that this jealousy could
destroy the marriage and lead to break-up of the family. When will women
understand that? 

This jealousy on the part of the wife of the brother who is
asking this question is going to destroy trust between her and her husband,
and lead to her wrecking her home with her own hands. This way of treating
the husband will destroy his love for her and cause it to be replaced with
hatred; it will destroy his desire to continue the marriage and will bring
it to a hasty end. 

The wise wife is the one who weighs up matters carefully and
does not cause trouble to her husband or develop doubt and suspicion about
his normal activities. Rather she strives to generate trust between her and
him and to lay the foundations of love and happiness between her and him, so
that their married life will be harmonious, otherwise she will soon be
numbered among the divorcees. 

Secondly: 

Our advice to the husband is to take it easy and not be
hasty. The nature of women is different from that of men, and there is no
one who is happy with his wife but there is some crookedness in her actions
and behaviour, which may be more or less according to her level of religious
commitment, common sense and good behaviour. 

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of
Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Woman is created
from a rib that will never become straight. So if you enjoy her, then enjoy
her with the crookedness that is in her, for if you try to straighten her
you will break her, and breaking her means divorcing her.” Narrated by
al-Bukhaari (3153) and Muslim (1468). 

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

This hadeeth indicates being kind towards women and treating
them gently, and putting up with crookedness in their nature and the
possibility of weakness in their intellect, and shows that it is not right
to divorce them for no reason, and that a man should not hope to straighten
her. 

Sharh Muslim (10/57). 

What we think you should do is put up with her attitude and
try to reconcile with her and increase her knowledge and faith, giving her
what is required for that of beneficial books and tapes and good companions.
And you should make your kind treatment of her another means of achieving
that, as well as offering a great deal of supplication. 

You should understand that divorce is a means of breaking up
and scattering families, and it affects the wife and children in most cases.
Many people put up with bad behaviour on the part of their wives for the
sake of their children and in the interests of the children, so that they
raise them in a good way so that they could help their mother to be obedient
and to mend her ways. This is something that is tried and tested, and this
is what we think you should do. 

But if you cannot put up with her behaviour and you would end
up mistreating her and denying her her rights, then divorce her. Perhaps she
will come to her senses after the first or second divorce (talaaq), but if
she persists in the way she is behaving and you cannot put up with her, then
there are many other women besides her and Allaah says (interpretation of
the meaning):

“But if they separate
(by divorce), Allaah will provide abundance for everyone of them from His
Bounty. And Allaah is Ever All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Wise”

[al-Nisa’ 4:130]. 

And Allaah is the source of strength.

Praise be to Allah.Firstly: 
The fiancé or husband has no right to ask about his wife’s past. It is sufficient for him that she is righteous and is known for good at the time of marrying her, and there is nothing wrong with her religious commitment or chastity. As to whether she did anything haraam in the past, but then repented from it and became righteous, it is wrong to ask her about that and make her choose between telling lies or getting divorced, or make her tell her secrets and disclose that which Allaah had concealed for her, then if she tells him the truth, that opens the door to doubt and suspicion. 
What some people call for, of each spouse being frank with the other and telling them of things in the past that Allaah has concealed, is wrong and ignorant. Rather they should be pleased that Allaah has concealed it and they should praise Allaah for it. 
Secondly: 
A wife or fiancée is not obliged to tell us what happened in the past that Allaah has concealed. Rather she must conceal herself, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Avoid this filth that Allaah has forbidden. Whoever does any such thing, then let him conceal it with the concealment of Allaah.” (Narrated by al-Bayhaqi; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 663). 
And Muslim (2590) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah does not conceal a person in this world but Allaah will conceal him on the Day of Resurrection.” 
If her husband or fiancé persists in asking, then she may use a double entendre, such as saying: Nothing happened between me and that man — meaning that nothing happened today or yesterday, because she is enjoined to conceal it and there is no interest to be served in telling him. So it is prescribed for her to use a double entrendre, and in fact some scholars said that it is permissible to tell a lie in that case. For more details on that please see the answer to question number 83093. 
Based on that, we hope that there will be no sin on you because of the lie that you told, although it would have been better to use a double entendre. 
Thirdly: 
If a man says to his fiancée: You will be haraam to me after the wedding if you concealed anything from me, then she conceals something from him, she will not be divorced and no zihaar will take place, because divorce and zihaar can only take place after marriage, and the fiancé is saying this before the marriage contract has taken place. So no divorce or zihaar takes place. 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: It should be noted that divorce can only take place after marriage, because it is the dissolution of the marriage bond. So before marriage there is no divorce. Even if a man says to a woman: If I marry you, then you are divorced, then he marries her, she is not divorced. Or if a man’s wife said to him: I heard that you want to take a second wife and I do not agree to that, and she put pressure on him, and he said to her: Will you be pleased if I say that if I marry a woman, she is divorced? And she said: I am pleased with that, then he said it and did not get married, and if he did get married she would not be divorced, because that took place before the marriage. End quote from al-Sharh al-Mumti’ (13/7). 
We ask Allaah to accept your repentance and to set your affairs straight. 
And Allaah knows best.